This is another challenge with Christian marital counselling these days I call it ARTIFICIAL EXAMPLES. I refrained from calling it Hypocrisy because that may be too harsh. But that is what they really are. These are counselors who ignore their past challenges and present their marriage as a bed of roses to young counselees who then assume that the challenges they are facing is peculiar to their relationship thus making them unnecessarily anxious about the future of their relationships.
We
must go back to the days of bible based christian marriage counselling
that is embedded in Christian values and not in Human values and secular
principles and experiences.
A lady friend earned my respect so much when she mentioned that "..She
was believing God for a car for her newly wedded husband.." She was
pregnant and a car would really help with comfortable mobility. Instead
of grumbling , complaining and wishing she had married another guy who
had a car . She was doing what every Christian should do i.e. praying
and believing and looking up to GOD for Her solution. In as much
as I advocate that men must be responsible for the up keep of their
home. Ladies / wives must also learn to make GOD the primary source of
everything they need. The only way we can remain grateful to our
husbands and wives for whoever they are IS TO CONTINUE LOOKING UP TO GOD
and His word to transform the situation and NOT BY LISTENING TO SO
CALLED EXPERTS AND EXPERIENCED MARRIAGE COUNSELORS. I do not say this to
undermine the role of marriage counselors pre and post marriage.However
we must all be like the Christians in Berea Act 17:11....and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. We must examine every advice we are given in the light of scriptures before we act.
Whether you find yourself with a Barack Obama or a Donald Trump , the fact still remains that you can still get to the highest places in life if you are willing to HELP YOUR MAN THROUGH THE PROCESS. This poison out there that seeks to encourage women to only look out for men who are already made and cooked is not of God . Most women have fallen victims to seemingly already made men who really just tend to frustrate and ill treat them. I have seen good christian women who are having affairs with married men , their bosses ,a man engaged to another woman already and all that , just because that is the only man they know who fits into this already made man criteria they have been given. Some men on the other hand are also loosing interest in marriage because of the pressure they have seen other married men go through or the pressure they have gone through in previous relationships. They`d rather be single and sleep around and go on with their lives than to settle with a woman who is not willing to allow them go through the process of becoming a man .
Marriage
is not for kids , it is for the matured . But maturity is a process
and we must all be willing to let God take us through the process of
maturity. The bible says ... as long as an heir is underage, he is no different from a slave, although he owns the whole estate.(Gal 4:1).
There are still a lot of heirs who are still underage and ALL THEY NEED IS TIME TO MATURE SO THEY CAN OWN THE WHOLE ESTATE.
Christ
is the center of every marriage or relationship , without Christ the
foundation of marriage is shaky and marriages can crumble anytime . We
need to invite Christ into our relationships and marriages so He can be
the moderator. The bibles says in Rom 3:23...for all have sinned and
fallen short of the glory of God. Our sins is what keeps us from
experiencing the grace of God through Christ. In conclusion I want to
recommend Christ Jesus to you. You can accept Him by just saying this
simple prayer :
Lord Jesus , I admit that I am a sinner please wash me from all my sins
and make me pure again. Come and live in my heart and be Lord over my
relationship. In Jesus Name Amen.
If
you are a christian then please pray and surrender everything to God
and ask Him to lead you into a successful relationship through His word
and the Holy Spirit. Amen !
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