THE BIG BANG THEORY LESSON !!

THE BIG BANG THEORY LESSON !!

Whiles watching an episode of big bang theory, Leonard, a lead character in the series`s mom come over to visit. She meets Penny and describes the source of Penny`s numerous problems as being due to "HER HAVING AN EXTERNAL LOCUS OF IDENTITY" which means that Penny looks out for external things to validate herself.

Though hilarious, her problem is really an issue that challenges many people especially women. You need to learn to look at yourself from an inward perspective and not an outward one.There are people who grew up in an environment where being pretty or THINKING you look pretty is considered an achievement when it actually isn't .

Today it is smooth skin, the next day it is bigger or smaller breast, the next day it wider hips or a certain buttocks shape or a certain height or a nose job or darker/brighter skin tone. The standard for beauty from an external perspective keeps changing. 

The big question is how did external beauty help any of the great women of our time and from the past in their various endeavors ? 
History has taught us that even women who were known for their iconic beauty required more than their looks to excel, even when it comes to "physical" looks-driven industries like modelling and acting, you still require more than looking pretty. If having nice boobs and a pretty face was ALL it took to excel in these fields then every beautiful lady who went into acting or modelling would excel. On the contrary most of those who excelled were told they either were too short or were deficient somewhere and yet still they beat the odds and excelled.

Learn to dig deep into yourselves to create an internal locus of identity instead of an external one. List all your achievements and successes so far and cross out the ones you were able to achieve because you had all those beautiful features you are looking for. Make a list of your future aspirations and cross out the ones you can achieve just by having nice boobs, nice skin, hair, face etc.

You would notice that for most cases you will not have anything to cross out. Thus proving that you can do ALL THINGS through CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS YOU.