Are you Melania Trump Or a Michelle Obama : Christian Marital Counselling Crisis 4

One of the most worrying trend is with young aggrieved inexperienced married women in church who

share their negative experiences in marriage as a bad lesson with younger single women. They spew the venomous garbage of their so called lessons into the minds of naive of young unmarried women. Leaving them confused and sowing seeds of discord in their minds. Your marriage / relationship is as safe as its distance from these women . The slow effect of the poison they release into the minds of the women they claim to counsel can transform a beautiful content soul into a very ugly ingrate. 

And there is also the case of counselors with vested interests , a friend of mine had to break an engagement because the counselor who was the lady`s pastor told her that the Holy Spirit says that the man He is going to marry will be poor through out His life and that if she marries him , she will be poor and needy. The fact of the matter was that the lady was a gifted singer and the pastor did not want to loose her . The counselor later encouraged her to marry another pastor in the church and He assured them of His continued Financial support. Well 2 years later the ministry collapsed and the pastor couldn't provide financially for them anymore. And guess what ? The lady is now begging my friend for money to take care of her household. Counselors with vested interest can never be trusted . Indirectly or directly they can hammer on the weakness and failures of the relationship so much that a naive mind will loose interest or get confused.

I HEARD A PREACHER ONCE PRAISING HIS WIFE BECAUSE WHEN THEY MARRIED HE HAD ALMOST NOTHING. REGULAR INCOME , PERMANENT ACCOMMODATION , ECONOMICALLY SELF SUFFICIENT and all those things people would look out for in a husband were absent in His life at the time of marriage but His wife still loved him and married him.

I was amazed when I heard this same man teaching at a marriage seminar and when it came to talking about the things to look out for in a husband , he stated the very criteria he did not meet when He was getting married many years ago. To my utter amazement He went further to discourage young women from marrying a man who did not meet the same standards He did not meet years ago. 

What had changed ? Well He is now a mega church pastor , He has money , a good income , permanent accommodation and all that , and so He had forgotten where he came from or was pretending to be who he really wasn't. Its almost as if when it comes marriage counselling , some counselors put on a fake angelic personality and present a Cinderella story of their marriage as an example.

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